Pre-marital counseling

Pre-marital counseling is learning the boundaries of who each of us are individually so that we can be together as "us". There are three people in the relationship; there is you, your partner, and the “us”- the person that you create together. It is not that we have to give up ourselves, or the other person has to give up themselves, it is learning that you can be together by not having to destroy us, or each of ourselves to be together.

Your job is not to agree with everything the person says, but to learn how to communicate with the other person. It is not our disagreements that destroy our unity, but how we deal with each other's emotions. It is how we deal with the emotion that determines our success in our life together. Pre-marital counseling looks at the emotions and helps you to better understand them, and learn to negotiate how to let go of parts of yourself to form “us”.

This type of therapy investigates the many layers in a relationship, and helps you to better understand the complex nature of relationships. Many times we get caught up in the first layer, which tends to be the small things that may bother us about our partner. Through our sessions, we help couples better communicate with each other, and to work out any concerns they might have moving forward.

Our ability to feel relaxed leading up to marriage can be aided by the adoption of a healthy routine, getting plenty of sleep, a healthy diet, enough exercise and through techniques such as meditation that help reduce stress.

The therapists at the Ardent Center can help you to work on establishing a good routine for yourself.

It can also help to talk to a therapist, because sometimes there can be an underlying reason for our lack of ease with getting married.

What should I do next?

Contact us to arrange for face to face therapy in Chicago (city, north, west and southsides) and in the Northern, Southern and Western Suburbs or online therapy in other areas by phoning 1-888-870-1775 or by contacting us.